Tuesday, August 31, 2010

On My Soap Box

Two of my daughters had a disagreement with feelings getting hurt and some things done wrong. One backed away from the other and wouldn't talk to her or answer voicemails. It wasn't too long though and things were forgiven and forgotten. Though they learned  and grew from the problem, its in the past where it belongs. Each one of us have a past. Each one of us have wronged or hurt someone. Each one of us have been forgiven and the problem forgotten. It made us stronger and hopefully we never make that mistake again. What bothers me is how some people seem to flame the embers of others mistakes. They don't want them to die down. They don't want to see that person move on and be a stronger better person. They seem to forget their  own past and all their mistakes. They seem to forget the forgiving and forgetting others did for them. I use to be guilty of that. Use to feel like I almost hated this person at times. Thought she was a spoiled brat that was trying her best to create problems for me at every turn. We both did wrong and we both hurt each other. But that is in the past. She has grown from her mistakes. I have grown from mine and though we aren't best buddies we are letting the past be the past. We are taking each day as it comes without worrying what the other is going to say or do. It sure feels good to not have hate in my heart. It sure feels good to let the past be the past and enjoy each day God gives me to the fullest. If you find yourself giving someone a hard time about their past mistakes. Or just ignoring them because of their past mistakes take a good look in the mirror. Remember you have a past and remember how good it felt it was forgiven and forgotten. Can't you do the same?

12 comments:

Mildred said...

Wise words Peggy. I remember Daddy teaching me that God forgives us of our sin if we ask and we should ask and forgive one another.

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Sounds like you have worked out feelings and problems from the past. You are right... ALL of us have PASTS---some good things and some bad things... Some people like to dwell on the past. Those are the people I love to stay away from....

Glad your girls worked out their problems... That is a good thing!!!! I hope that the person you are talking to will listen to you ---and be willing to move on also... That's good advice for all of us.

Hugs,
Betsy

Kelly said...

Peggy I agree wholeheartedly with you. Some people won't let things go. However, sometimes it is best to just let go and cut your loses. Some people like to stir the pot and keep things going. Forgive them and move on. It does feel like a burden is lifted.

Denise said...

Peggy, I read this post earlier and then went to update the Reflection on my blog and had a WOW moment. The second to the last sentence summed up what you posted about.

Definately food for thought, thank you for sharing.

Mandie said...

Thank you Peggy for that. It is so true. We all have something we need forgiven for. Thank goodness for second chances.

Mike said...

I'm not, by any means, disagreeing with you Peggy. I'm all for forgiving, forgetting and moving on, but some people won't let themselves be forgiven, forgotten or even want to move on. So, I choose to distance myself from them and move on with my own life away from them. I don't need them raining on my parade day after day. Nor do I want to get long-winded in a comment. I'll save that for my Blog. (is William out of the doghouse, yet?)

Granny J said...

I thought sure I replied to this yesterday after I read it. Guess these pain pills are better than I though. lol Some people can never bring themselves to forgive and forget. I hope you won't let the person you were speaking of ruin your happiness.

madcobug said...

Great entry. Helen

amelia said...

I have had the same thing happen with my two daughters in the past. Thank goodness they are friends again because it's so heartbreaking for ME!!! Even though it's not about me, as a mother I don't think we can bear this happening between our kids!!

Wise words Peggy, wise indeed.

Marian (LaMizPlaced said...

Well, Peggy. Been there, done that. It isn't fun. I'm glad to see you have resolved to let by-gones be by-gones. Isn't that a wonderful expression?!?!?! Whether you and your friend ever get your old relationship back or just are able to maintain a peaceful co-existence, your world will be better from here on.

Hope the hurricane is far from you.

PEA said...

Very wise words indeed sis. As you know, my daughter in law has hurt me badly and yes, I felt hate in my heart for a few minutes but it didn't last long because I've been taught to have a forgiving heart, no matter what. She has a lot of growing up to do and I just stay patient and wait until she does:-) Sometimes it's hard to forget but like you I believe it's important to forgive. Love ya sis. xoxo

Sandy@American Way Farm said...

Holding grudges takes way too much energy and way too much time. Forgiveness is the only real way to peace. Thanks for this post and the reminder. Have a blessed day.